My 38 year old son suffers from schizophrenia (paranoid type) probably since his early 20s. I cannot possibly explain the background in this one note, but I have a journal that has documented everything. Nothing I write can explain the total anguish that has become part of my daily existence.
Each time I think things could not get any worse, they do. He has been in and out of mental facilities in Georgia (where I now live) and NJ, where he used to live. I say “used to live” because he is homeless in Manhattan.
He is eligible for SSDI because he has held down responsible jobs throughout his life, but he doesn’t have any address so never applies. He certainly is not a criminal, but he has two pending court cases against him for “burglary” and possession of a fake weapon. I wish he were in jail so he would have some place to stay but his crimes are minor. He sleeps God knows where and has no access to bathing.
They say he has to hit bottom, but how much further down can he go?
He arrived on his father’s doorstep last week and was allowed to bathe and spend one night but sent out the door the next day. He has burned all his bridges and none of the relatives or friends will let him stay there anymore due to him causing damage to property.
All these stories have a decent result but I know my story is more the norm. I have had surgery so I cannot just go up to Manhattan to “rescue” him, even if that were possible. I was told he needs to apply for a free lawyer but that would mean he actually must fill out an application. Don’t these people realize he is not rational and that will not happen.
His father lives nearby in NY but insists he just wants things to “evolve” and maybe that is the correct course of action. My son won’t accept help even though everyone offers it to him. They say he has to hit bottom, but how much further down can he go?
I can’t stand the idea of this becoming his life forever. What do you do when someone will not help and everyone has washed their hands of him?