My boyfriend, Steve, has a variety of mental illnesses that he lives with daily. I have learned to adapt to his different mood swings, and so much more. He has Bipolar Disorder, Depression, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD), and Dyslexia, yet still manages to teach at a high school and now keeps things under control thanks to medications and therapy.
When I first met Steve, he was not on medications, and on this out of control bipolar episode which consisted of many triggers and many different side effects that are affiliated with his illnesses. This all took a toll on him and Steve ended up attempting suicide in June 2013 and called me to help him. Once he was admitted he had asked me to come by and see him, I was there most everyday. Since Steve has come out of the hospital and followed through with outpatient therapy, has taken his medications, gets regular sleep and so forth. He has grown so much and has achieved so much more. I tell him I am proud of him everyday.
There are still reminders to do this or that, but it’s all part of his illnesses. And if Steve was any other way, there is a chance he would NOT be the wonderful, gentle, caring, and great father that would do anything for his kids. He is even still there for his ex-wife when emergencies and problems arise. He is also a very loving, inspirational person and someone to look up to, as he has so many other great qualities.
Steve has had to make some difficult decisions which were his decisions and no one telling him to do this or that, once he realized he needed to step up and take control of his life. Steve is moving forward with his life as painful as it is at times, but also understanding that it is needed. There are triggers in many different parts of his life and he has come to grips with some and still working on others. Thanks to therapy and additional help he is able to get through any situation with much accomplishment, and still be able to go on with his life.
Steve I just want to say to you, thank you for everything you have taught me and showing what does and does not trigger you. I want to thank you for growing as quickly as you have and know that I will be here as you need me. As you know, if you need something I will drop what I am doing to be there for you. You always say to me that I have a big heart, this is who I am and I wouldn’t want to be anyone different, as well as I would not want you to be any different either.