Abusive family, abusive relationships, abusive spouse, self-harm, suicidal ideation, falling in love with the wrong person. We call these things our mistakes in life and are ashamed to talk about these things and we blame ourselves. They are not “mistakes” they are experiences that we learn from. Add these things to the stigma of mental illness and we feel more ashamed. We start obsessing about people we’re not going to see again and obsessing about things we should of should not have done. I’ve had a life with plenty of abuse and abandonment also people I loved deeply who left me for one reason or another. I hurt like hell sometimes. But I’ve made peace with my past and am not ashamed.