I was diagnosed about 15 years ago. For the most part I had good, productive days. In May 29th, 2016 my husband of 24 years passed away at home and unexpectedly. It was a snowball after that and I lost everything. I moved back home to my mom’s house and that was tension filled. My sister in Texas invited me to live with her. On April 23rd, 2018 I left California and drove to Texas where I am presently. 

I think I made the biggest mistake of my life! You see, her 30 year old son who has Schizoaffective disorder lives with her. The dynamic between the two of them is rather scary to me. He runs this house as well as my sister. He does what he wants, says what he wants, makes demands of his mom and if they aren’t fulfilled he starts breaking her things. This is a big 2 story place that is in shambles. From windows broken, wood flooring torn out, doors ripped off hinges, holes in walls, dishes broken, tv, phones, etc. The list is too long. He does work and hates it. Doesn’t pay rent, car insurance, cell phone, pay for food or utilities. He is constantly telling my sister he will kill her. He doesn’t help in any way. He is on a few meds which makes him eat everything in sight. He sees nothing wrong that. I’ve bought groceries and he has  eaten what he wants. He shows no respect to anybody and won’t listen. 

This has been the dynamic in this house since he was 17. My sister says she has to “pick her battles.“ 

He’s very angry at me because I "talked back” to him and wanted me to apologize. He also told his mom to kick me out. She won’t because I can’t afford to move again.

I’m mad and don’t know what to do for any of us.

I need advice!