I am the father of a 32 year old daughter who suffers from mental illness. She had two nasal surgeries which did not go well and is obsessed with here nose. She is trying to wean herself off medicines including benzos and is having extremely bad withdrawal symptoms.  

Her moods are bizarre. She feels she cannot be alone and I have given up my whole life to be with her.  We fight terribly. My wife is very sick and has an aide.  This is my daughter’s mother but my daughter hates her because she suffered two major nervous breakdowns and mental illness runs in her family.  My daughter blames her for her problems.  I am also in the middle of this and ridden with guilt regarding both of them.

I feel like I have no one in this world to help me cope with this burden.   Every day is a day of misery for me as it is for her.  Every decision I make is wrong.  I feel like I have no one in this world to help me share the burden.  How does parents of adult children with these problems cope?

Please advise