Our only child is now 35 and we are only now coming to grips with the clear signs of BPD that he has displayed for most of his life. In the past 20 years he has had criminal charges, produced 5 children, married once, and worked off and on in multiple states. One minute he acknowledges the contributions of love and support and the next minute he makes up stories about being an abused child and the result of horrible parenting. We are exhausted. We are facing retirement with less financial resources and a desire for some peace in our lives. How does someone like this seek medical treatment when he has no health insurance? His dad and I are seeking treatment as a couple to help us support him while not losing our minds.