NAMI - You are Not Alone — Setting the Tone

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Setting the Tone

First, let me say that I am no stranger to mental illness. I come from a family that struggles with schizophrenia and major depression, and it was a long journey for me to overcome my own depression - finding the right meds, admitting it wasn’t something that I could control, reaching out instead of “sucking it up.” I watched one of my best friends have a psychotic break and be institutionalized when I was young, and it was incredibly hard. Now, approaching forty and getting ready to be married, the specter of mental illness has come back. My fiancé was diagnosed with Bipolar at the end of the summer last year. He had a manic episode that was frightening to me - no sleeping, no eating, talking talking talking, grandiose thoughts; the whole nine. Anyway, I knew it for what it was, having seen it before in other people. He agreed to go to a doctor, and was prescribed antipsychotics that make him unable to do much but sleep. He hated them, and lied to me about taking them, and after a few weeks, he got better without them when his mania wore off.

He was ashamed of his diagnosis, but also adamant that he did not want to be the person he became on the meds. He doesn’t want to “lose himself.” This is hard for me to understand, because with my depression, the meds were a lifesaver. I would be unable to function without them; I am indebted to them for the life that I cherish. I tried to tell him the one thing that I have taken away from being close to mental illness, and the one thing I want everyone who is to remember: Mental Illness is the SAME AS ANY OTHER ILLNESS. Do not be ashamed, do not give up, do not be angry if you can help it. Yes, it’s hard. So is it hard to be suffering from influenza, or cancer, or multiple sclerosis. All of those things would be immediate, and difficult, and quite possibly life threatening to a degree that would cause you to seek medical treatment. This is of paramount importance to remember. Nothing to be ashamed of.

My fiancé is experiencing another manic phase now. He is unwilling to seek treatment, and doesn’t think the medicine will help. I have told him many times that it takes some work to find the right medicine, and you have to take a holistic approach - not just meds, but eating and sleeping right, all that stuff. It is hard. I’m trying to get support for him, for me, for the future - and I will. I love this man; I won’t give up on him because he’s sick. I am his family. I won’t let him go. I will do whatever I can to make sure he has the chance to get well. So, wanted to give anyone who reads this the best advice I can give as a person who has gone/is going through an experience with mental illness. SICKNESS IS NOT ANYTHING TO BE ASHAMED OF, AND ASKING FOR HELP ISN’T EITHER. That’s the tone you need to set for yourself and your loved ones. Maybe love isn’t enough - I don’t know if I will be able to help him if he can’t see that he needs it - but I will not give up on him, any more than I would give up on someone who had the flu.

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